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'How To Love Yourself' Tips and Techniques To Teach Your Children


Our Previous post explained why children are extremely critical during activities. This blog gives tips and techniques I use frequently to teach your child how to speak to themselves with love

A. Take words that are loving towards themselves (Let them choose the words)

Turn this into an activity and create graffitti with the words. This doesn't have to be huge, and can be a very transforming experience. You can create a collage. Make sure this is in their room so that they wake up to reading these words every day.

Phrase examples:

1. I am awesome

2. I am cool

3. I love myself

4. I am special

5. I learn easily

6. I am kind to myself

7. I accept I always do my best

8. I learn from my mistakes

9. I am intelligent or clever

10. I am proud of me

B. Create a poster by drawing themselves in the middle.

On the poster in the middle write:

I know what I need to help myself. Ask them to write down what do they need when they are sad. Some suggestions:

1. To have a hug

2. To ask how to do something

3. To have time by myself

4. To have someone hold my hand without giving me suggestions how to handle this situation

When your child has an experience that is upsetting start asking them; 'What do you need from me to help you?' If they say they don't know, ask them to look at their poster and let you know when they know what they want. Don't suggest anything for them because you are taking away their responsibility to be capable of making intelligent choices of their own.

C. Celebrate mistakes

It is very important to explain what a mistake means firstly. Then have a star chart daily in a diary or calendar. Each star represents a mistake made and how they found a solution to the mistake.

What does a mistake mean?

Answer: A learning curve - If I did not make this mistake, I would not know how to do it another way.

The more your children speak openly about how they have found a mistake and accept it, they will start being less pefectionists and start loving themselves more. When they say what they have done as a mistake - say phrases like - how cool was this - what did you learn and did you change it? Sometimes its about just acceptance. So you don't always need to 'fix' a mistake, but stress what has been learnt is very important


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