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'How to help my child deal with emotions' How to help your child deal with anger
July 10, 2016
So many times I have parents ask me this question; 'How can I help my child deal with their emotions, particularly anger?'
My response is always the same: 'How do you deal with your anger?'
We as children have grown up in a society to be taught that anger is bad. Where does anger start? Think why you become angry as an adult......
Most of the times you become angry because:
- You don't feel listened to
- You don't feel respected
- You don't feel you know how to say what it is that you actually feel
- You feel put down, criticised or rejected
- You can't do something or don't know how
- You are not in control of a situation
When an adult allows these emotions to eventually surface, they are displayed in certain ways. Either constructively or destructively both physically or verbally.
Try to think when you were a child how your anger triggered. Were you given the safe environment to express this? Was there someone to speak to you and explain what happens when your emotions surface? Were you given solutions how to deal with your anger constructively?
After asking most adults - I would say the answer is no......
Why? We are taught anger is a bad emotion, yet it is an emotion that we will experience and cannot avoid. We are not taught how to process, possibly understand and work through the emotion so that reactions can be avoided.
Many parents feel that they are being pointed out to be a 'bad parent' when I ask how they deal with their anger. I mostly get responses that it is a very happy household. Why are we so scared to address our feelings? Fear of failure? We had to learn it somewhere?
YOU are a human being who cannot avoid being angry at a stage in your life. How you choose to deal with that anger and teach your child is another option available to you.
What is the first step in acknowledging your anger?
1. Take responsibility and apologise to your child. I do th